Posted by: Tony | February 18, 2007

Men will be lovers of ‘self’

History and foundations of self-love:

1. Self love is never commanded in the Bible

2. Not in the Bible, it’s a result of outside influences. A consequence of trying to integrate man’s wisdom with the Bible.

3. Eric Fromm (a secular psychologist) popularized this mis-interpretation of Jesus.

4. Fromm said we CAN’T love others until we properly love ourselves.

5. Fromm said that since we are to love others and I am an “other” to someone else, therefore I should love my self.

6. Perspectives: God to man, man to God, self to others, others to self and man to self. Doesn’t logically follow that “because I am to love God, therefore I am to love self.”

7. Secular psychologists talk about love, but it’s not self-sacrificial love, it’s love based on what it can do for me.

What the Bible says:

1. In a perfect world there was no concern for self. Only God and others.

2. When Adam & Eve rebelled, a fundamental truth is that they lost a heart that loved God. They hated God. We are all born with hearts that hate God and love self.

3. Scripture says we already love ourselves.

Ephesians 5:29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church.

5. The Bible actually predicted this practice of self-love in these times.

2 Tim 3:2 But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come. For men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, etc….rather than lovers of God.

6. Jesus said 2 commandments, not 3.

Matthew 22:34-40 But when the Pharisees heard that Jesus had silenced the Sadducees, they gathered themselves together. One of them, a lawyer, asked Him a question, testing Him, “Teacher, which is the great commandment in the Law?” And He said to him, ” ‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ This is the great and foremost commandment. The second is like it, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ On these two commandments depend the whole Law and the Prophets.”

7. As yourself means like you love yourself or in the same manner you love yourself, not while or at the same time.

Eph. 5:28 Husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies.

8. Our great need is to learn to love God and others, we don’t need to learn to love self.

9. Not commanded to love ourselves, commanded to deny ourselves.

Luke 9:23 And Jesus was saying to them all, If anyone wishes to come after Me, he must deny himself, and take up his cross daily and follow Me.

10. Jesus said “If you don’t hate yourself, you’re not worthy of me.”

Luke 14:26 If anyone comes to Me, and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be My disciple.

11. People who commit suicide don’t hate themselves, they love themselves too much. If they hated themselves, they would want to be in pain. But because they love themselves too much, they want to end their pain.

Our great example and commission of true love:

1. God loves the unlovable. God loves us in spite of our being unlovable.

Romans 5:8 God demonstrates His own love for us in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.

2. There’s nothing within me to cause God to love me, He loves me because He is love. It’s based on His character not mine. Therein is security, because He changes not.

1 John 4:10 In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins.

3. Now, we are to love our enemies and pray for those who persecute us.

Matthew 5:43-44 You have heard that it was said, YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR and hate your enemy.’ But I say to you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.

4. Love your neighbor as yourself. We clothe ourselves, brush our own hair, etc. We ought to care for others the way we already care for ourselves. We give second hand stuff to our neighbors, not firsthand; that’s not really loving our neighbor as our selves. We ought to give others brand new clothes, etc.  By the power of the Holy Spirit, we can love others the way Jesus did.


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